About Me
- marciasArena
- I am in metamorphosis, my world has been altered and I exist in my past and present and look forward to my future. Sometimes I get lost in the chaos that is life but still I am managing to learn to live again. This is a look into the inner workings of my mind!
Tuesday, June 28, 2005
Titus Gets his 1st Tooth
Titus got his first tooth today, it finally broke through!!!!! Looking at you it is on the bottom row on the right
Friends
I was reading an article in Parenting this month entitled "Making Friends" I am quoting from it in italics. For all intents and purposes the word child is replaced with friend several times throughout this article. It is regarding shy, overwhelmed, or just unsocial children making friends. I found it interesting to read because alot of it applies to adults too. So I put this in my own guide.
I am not sure how many of you ever feel like you didn't learn the socially acceptable behaviors as a child, so here are some tips for friends of the socially awkward and for the socially awkward themselves.
The basics
1. "Learning to be a friend is a process that takes time and practice and experience...
2. It is important to have realistic expectations... during times we and our loved ones may get embarrassed and uncomfortable in situations... We wonder 'How should I respond?' or What should I do?
Helping your socially awkward friends
1. MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER It's important to come to terms with who your friend is, with all his/her strengths and weaknesses, because its the only way they will grow and your friendship too. If you are busy trying to CHANGE your friend you’re going to set yourself up for frustration!
2. Your role as a friend is to help give your friend the tools and experience to become more comfortable with themselves and with social settings. Try to view an incident as an opportunity to guide rather than considering it a step back or a reason to end the friendship.
Understanding the Problem
1. By preschool kids are working on refining their social skills, figuring out things like how to break into a group or cope with rejection. Seeing things from another person's perspective they begin to understand why bad behavior (such as ignoring, talking behind someone’s back, lying, etc) might make a playmate upset.
2. By age 6 kids develop a more abstract and enduring sense of friendship, learning how to actually be a friend, they will see certain relationships as special with codes of conduct and benefits."
Some of us missed, skipped (didn’t have a supportive or healthy home environment – or we are copying our parents coping styles) etc these young childhood opportunities to learn – so work with us! :) When we are old and gray and have learned from ALL our mistakes – then we might be a great friend. But until then please remember no body (except Jesus, God and the like) is perfect – so cut us socially awkward people a break once in a while.
Disclaimer: The author was trying to get several points across this might not have been what she had in mind - it is my spin on this article and some of what I took from it to use in my own life.
If you would like to read the original article please click on the following link:
http://www.parenting.com/parenting/healthypregnancy/article/0,19840,mGRonadlsNmj,00.html
I am not sure how many of you ever feel like you didn't learn the socially acceptable behaviors as a child, so here are some tips for friends of the socially awkward and for the socially awkward themselves.
The basics
1. "Learning to be a friend is a process that takes time and practice and experience...
2. It is important to have realistic expectations... during times we and our loved ones may get embarrassed and uncomfortable in situations... We wonder 'How should I respond?' or What should I do?
Helping your socially awkward friends
1. MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER It's important to come to terms with who your friend is, with all his/her strengths and weaknesses, because its the only way they will grow and your friendship too. If you are busy trying to CHANGE your friend you’re going to set yourself up for frustration!
2. Your role as a friend is to help give your friend the tools and experience to become more comfortable with themselves and with social settings. Try to view an incident as an opportunity to guide rather than considering it a step back or a reason to end the friendship.
Understanding the Problem
1. By preschool kids are working on refining their social skills, figuring out things like how to break into a group or cope with rejection. Seeing things from another person's perspective they begin to understand why bad behavior (such as ignoring, talking behind someone’s back, lying, etc) might make a playmate upset.
2. By age 6 kids develop a more abstract and enduring sense of friendship, learning how to actually be a friend, they will see certain relationships as special with codes of conduct and benefits."
Some of us missed, skipped (didn’t have a supportive or healthy home environment – or we are copying our parents coping styles) etc these young childhood opportunities to learn – so work with us! :) When we are old and gray and have learned from ALL our mistakes – then we might be a great friend. But until then please remember no body (except Jesus, God and the like) is perfect – so cut us socially awkward people a break once in a while.
Disclaimer: The author was trying to get several points across this might not have been what she had in mind - it is my spin on this article and some of what I took from it to use in my own life.
If you would like to read the original article please click on the following link:
http://www.parenting.com/parenting/healthypregnancy/article/0,19840,mGRonadlsNmj,00.html
Monday, June 27, 2005
Myth Buster: Infant Feedings Rice-cereal myth debunked
Besides is he crawling yet (when you keep having to say no), one of the second annoying things to be asked is - is he eating yet. So for all the solid food pushers, you know who you are :) here is an artical for you.
By Laura Flynn McCarthy from Parenting Magazine
MYTH Adding some rice cereal to your baby’s breast milk or formula will help her sleep through the night.
TRUTH A study at the Cleveland Clinic involving more than 100 babies found that adding a tablespoon of rice cereal per ounce of breast milk or formula in nighttime bottles had no effect on sleep. Plus, infants shouldn’t be given solids before they’re 4 to 6 months old, when their tongue movements develop enough for swallowing and they can sit up with little support, says Elisa Zied, spokes-person for the American Dietetic Association. (It’s also better to introduce solids with a spoon to help develop eating skills.)
Alas, middle-of-the-night feedings may be inevitable. Until about 4 to 6 months, most babies can’t hold enough food in their stomachs to last until morning. Even after 6 months, they can wake naturally throughout the night, and it may take some time before they learn how to soothe themselves back to sleep without the comfort of a breast or bottle.
By Laura Flynn McCarthy from Parenting Magazine
MYTH Adding some rice cereal to your baby’s breast milk or formula will help her sleep through the night.
TRUTH A study at the Cleveland Clinic involving more than 100 babies found that adding a tablespoon of rice cereal per ounce of breast milk or formula in nighttime bottles had no effect on sleep. Plus, infants shouldn’t be given solids before they’re 4 to 6 months old, when their tongue movements develop enough for swallowing and they can sit up with little support, says Elisa Zied, spokes-person for the American Dietetic Association. (It’s also better to introduce solids with a spoon to help develop eating skills.)
Alas, middle-of-the-night feedings may be inevitable. Until about 4 to 6 months, most babies can’t hold enough food in their stomachs to last until morning. Even after 6 months, they can wake naturally throughout the night, and it may take some time before they learn how to soothe themselves back to sleep without the comfort of a breast or bottle.
Oh, The Heat
How do people live without A/C? I am misrable!!!! Ours is only kind of working so it gets up to 80 in the house right now! It is so yucky, really unmotivating! I have not done anything in the house for almost 2 weeks! Well, we have called a repair man but we are having tech issues as our condo A/C is built into side of the building. They need to clean the coil which is on the front of the unit and they can't get to it w/o removing the stuff on the building - let's just say it is complicated, and it SUCKS! Meanwhile Titus and I are suffering! IT'S HOT! I hate the heat, and Titus is developing a rash on his face from it and drool. Poor little guy. Poor Mommy.
But at least our home is nice and dark (if we want it to be) so I have been letting in little sunlight to help keep it cooler.
Our deep freeze went out this week too, so we have lost all our food :( And I am getting over a cold but having allergie sinus issues. Titus is also getting over a cold. Not a fun week!
Anyway... I have a doc apt regarding the blood work tomorrow. I won't know anything for a while probably but I will get back to everyone and let you know what they say.
But at least our home is nice and dark (if we want it to be) so I have been letting in little sunlight to help keep it cooler.
Our deep freeze went out this week too, so we have lost all our food :( And I am getting over a cold but having allergie sinus issues. Titus is also getting over a cold. Not a fun week!
Anyway... I have a doc apt regarding the blood work tomorrow. I won't know anything for a while probably but I will get back to everyone and let you know what they say.
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